Life is more about doing than being, which has led us all to lead the lives of workaholics with constant daily activity. At what point do we kick back and relax, lend some time to ourselves, and truly meditate on the simplest of pleasures in life? And an even better question is- how?
Whether I'm working, parenting, cleaning house, socializing, or preparing for more events and activities- the day is done by the time all tasks are complete. It is rare that even a moment is allocated to me, myself, and I. I'm talking some peaceful, quality, chill time in which I can reflect on life and love, write a blog or two, read a good book, exercise without the mental pressure of needing to look better, listen calmly to some music, have a cool drink, connect with a loved one, or engage in thoughtful discussion. What I've started to realize is that such a precious gift must be planned ahead and locked in the schedule or it'll never happen.
“There's just too much to do. There's no way #relaxation time will be left for ourselves- unless we prioritize it like all the other 'to-do's' in our day.”
So here are 7 simple steps that will lead you to a more rewarding, relaxing lifestyle, starting with a more thoughtfully planned day...
1) Define what truly relaxes you
For some people, sleep alone is enough to relax the mind, body, and soul. In which case, your journey to it is easy- just get to bed earlier. For many others, relaxation is about achieving a more conscious state of mental, emotional, and intellectual wellness. For me, this entails, finding time to sit amongst nature- view the beauty of green grass, feel a cool breeze, or listen to the silent splash of a natural body of water. Once I'm in the right environment to relax, reading or writing takes me levels above my reality and into complete euphoria. For others, relaxation requires great music, a smooth drive, an empty house, a hot meal, a hot guy/girl, or maybe even a stroll through the mall. Figure out what environment you need to be in to let your hair down and chill. Only then can you begin your journey to creating it.
2) Prioritize Time to Relax
We are programmed to believe that everyone else's needs are more important than our own. Being employees, business owners, and parents; oftentimes our bosses, clients and kids are dictating what we do and when. However, the power is truly in our hands. We must set aside time for us to do us. It's just as important that you get a mental break each day as it is to get a lunch break, however no one is going to designate it but you. Whether it takes the first 5 minutes of your meal break, waking up an extra 15 minutes earlier in the morning, or taking 30 minutes before you go to bed, spend the valuable time you need getting in tune with you and your own needs. Life truly isn't worth living unless you get to experience bliss on your terms every now and again. Make time for it in your life.
3) Do. Be. Repeat.
We already do the most. Now that we've acknowledged that being requires defining our peaceful activities and making time for it, we now need to make it a habit. Relaxation needs to be a part of your culture, something you bring up in conversation, clarify to anyone who wants to impede on it that relaxation can not be compromised, and absolutely needs to be habitual. Please understand that for you to give your best to others- you must be your best self. Being your best self means getting lots of rest and relaxation, eating healthy, spending time to reflect on your actions and mistakes, getting intellectual insight, and constantly fulfilling your vision of psychological success. Do not let anyone take the chill time off your clock.
4) Align Yourself with Other Relaxed Folks
Ever heard the phrase, "Misery loves company?" Well guess what? Miserable people are not actually good company. Laid back and relaxed folks are with whom the good times are rolling.
What makes it easier for you to relax is to hang out with other folks who know what makes them happy, who makes time for happiness, and commit to a lifestyle of bliss, no matter what external factors cross their path. Seek out the company of those folks who travel and play as much as they work and handle business. Share experiences and hardships with one another while always keeping a mindset of positivity and peace. You all will support each others ongoing journey to relaxation.
5) Gain Support Along the Way
Finding time to relax is not easily done alone. Without someone to watch the kids, tend to the home, or check your messages and emails- consistency in this cannot be achieved. It is wise to trade off time with the kids with other parents, your own family, or with understanding colleagues. At times, I find it is easier to relax in the presence of my kids when other parents are around to support me. Gather a few mom folks and have a peace day camouflaged as a play date. Just be sure to give the children someone engaging to do, like games, craft projects, a great movie, prepared foods, and music that won't have them distracting you as you aim to drink, lay around, and discuss life on your own terms.
6) Set it Up
When your chill time is closer to the chaos that you'd like, you have the important duty of setting it up ahead of time. In order to enjoy relaxation daily, you will never find enough time to visit spas and take trips out on the water. Instead, you will have to create a Pamper Package of some sort that is already equipped with the music, meds, aromas, books, products, and magical things you most enjoy. Whether in the car, at home, or at work- keep your kit handy. You always want to keep your most peaceful possessions close.
7) Get Away
You do not have to leave your family or friends behind at every chance, but an escape from your home duties and work life is often necessary. Whether you choose to take friends or family away with you, I highly encourage time to explore the vast enjoyable environments that this world has to offer. Sometimes your kids or significant other may need this more than you know as well.
Keep all 7 relaxation tips in mind so that you've thoughtfully defined the best ways to relax, set the time aside, make this priceless part of your life a consistent part, gather others with the same intent to get onboard, gain support from family & friends, plan ahead so you have all the tools you need to make the most of your time away, and Go!
XOXO
Delicia B. Davis