5 Signs of a Cheater

Dear Diary,

We are often the victims of heartbreak and it hurts to the core! When our loved one turns out to be a cheater, we all wonder "why me?" when it happens. We want to know why they did it and why we didn't see the signs. Thing is, the signs of a cheater is usually staring us in the face but most the time, we refuse to accept and acknowledge it.

We have to notice the changes in our relationships and the red flag signals. I've picked up on a few over the years and will supply you with 5 surefire signs of a cold blooded cheater...

#1 If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. Don't you ladies know a guy who was in a relationship when he met you and was looking to find the next best thing- you- and will continue looking for the next best while he's with you? A dog is a dog and if he had the audacity to do it once, what makes you think he won't do it again?

#2 If he has a wandering eye, believe me, he's looking for something. It's only a matter of time until he finds it. And I'm not talking about a glance across a room. We all do that. We may be cuffed but we aren't blind. It's okay for your significant other to be aware of his surroundings so a glance is normal. But when those eyes keep following the ass, tits, lips, etc. of women on a regular basis, he is on the prowl. Let him know you notice it and ask him what he's looking for that he don't already have. Because soon enough, that look may turn into a touch...

#3 Extreme Jealousy is a sign of a guilty party. When your mate is so jealous about the guys you come into contact with and can't shake the thought of you cheating from his head, chances are he's acting on his own guilt... either that or he's insecure which is a whole 'nother issue (See #4). If he's checking your phone, monitoring your male interactions, starting fights that end with him leaving the house, and making accusations without good reason; he may be expressing the guilt of his own wrongdoings. If you're innocent and have made it clear in both words or actions, it's time to turn the questions back on him.

#4 You're with a weak and insecure man who doesn't appreciate what he's got. This is one of the most common signs of a cheater but most women ignore this, not realizing the danger we're in. A weak man will fall for anything and won't be able to stand up to peer pressure, temptation, or rejection. They don't appreciate what they've got because they're insecure and don't believe they have achieved enough even when they have a good, strong, quality woman on their arm. They are constantly looking for validation and find that only when they can conquer some new booty... instead of seeking to find it within themselves. Well ladies, be on the lookout, this kind of cheater comes in all forms. Seek out a strong, secure man who knows what he wants.

#5 He doesn't want you, respect you, or appreciate you. If you're with someone who does not treat you with the dignity, respect, and love that you deserve, chances are- he doesn't believe you deserve it. If at one point in your relationship, he did right by you but now he's not treating you the same, something is wrong. Either he lost interest, he doesn't love you, want you, or appreciate you. He probably keeps you around just to have something special on the side but if you're not getting top-pick treatment, you probably aren't his top pick. Don't be foolish enough to believe you can change him and that this is what's normal. Love does NOT hurt. Love is patient. Love is kind. And if you are feeling like he isn't totally fulfilled, he probably isn't. Don't waste any more of your time in a relationship that isn't right. Approach the issues and if you aren't getting the responses you deserve, move on!

BONUS #6!!! If you suspect something's wrong and have good reason to believe your man is doing wrong, HE MOST LIKELY IS!!

NOTE: The previous signs of a cheater are valid for both men and women.

Posted on DiaryDiscussions.com on April 4, 2012 at 4:19pm in Love & Relationships